
I tend to write a lot of spiritual, introspective blogs in my head and that's about as far as they go. But I've been feeling compelled to get some of these feelings out in the open, so here we go...In the last few months I have become paralyzed by a fear of failure. I chalk it up to a combination of feeling inadequate in my statistics class last semester and the presence of new people in my life who are actually more Type A than I am when it comes to certain things. (I say "certain things," because if you know me, then you'll understand that I can be completely neurotic when it comes to something like getting the best grades, but then be a total free spirit when it comes to how often I do the laundry or clean the windows - so maybe I'm more of a Type A-.) Justin used to tell me my weird competitive drive stemmed from the fact that I never played organized sports as a child. (I contend that bowling is in fact an organized sport.) I noticed that when I started running a couple of years ago that some of that competitive drive was unleashed in a more appropriate direction, so maybe Justin's on to something with that theory of his. But, unfortunately that pursuit has gone by the wayside since I started juggling the work/school/home life trifecta, and my weirdly misdirected competitive drive has returned. This time coupled with high anxiety and a fear of coming up short in the eyes of my professors, my colleagues, my friends, my family, etc.
I gained a new perspective on this whole thing yesterday at church. (As an aside, "the church" and I have had a weird relationship for several months, so this was an unexpected surprise for me.) The guest speaker talked about a really simple concept - simple at least to a person who has grown up in church and feels like they have "heard it all before" - the concept of Grace. The whole point of grace is that the person on the receiving end has done nothing to deserve it. It isn't something you can earn by being the best at something, getting the highest grade, or being the perfect employee. Grace is a gift that is given freely because of God's love for us. The beauty of it is that while there is nothing we can do to earn grace, there is also nothing we can do to lose it. So, while there is something to be said for the earthly rewards that come with getting good grades and being a successful employee, I shouldn't fear failure because God's grace is sufficient enough to get me through anything and, for the lack of a better, more spiritual explanation - grace means that God's got my back. And with Him, failure isn't even a possibility, let alone an option.